TRUTH BOMB — ACTUAL REASON YOU’RE STILL FENCE-SITTING
“𝘐 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵”
“𝘐 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳”
“𝘐 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘦𝘳”
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐜, 𝐛𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤!
Here’s why!
Because right now, you feel tired and uninspired
You’re finding it hard to get motivated
And there’s not enough perceived UP SIDE to getting you off the fence.
“𝘗𝘢𝘺 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵??" 𝐍𝐚𝐡𝐡𝐡𝐡
“𝘚𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘩 𝘰𝘯 𝘢 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘮 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘧𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳?" 𝐍𝐚𝐡𝐡𝐡𝐡
“𝘐𝘯𝘷𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘰 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘦𝘳?" 𝐌𝐚𝐧, 𝐈’𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐝𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐨𝐧…𝐈’𝐦 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝!
It’s not that you don’t want it,
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐧’𝐭 𝐩𝐮𝐭 𝐚 𝐝𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐫 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐩𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐌𝐈𝐆𝐇𝐓 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞.
So, let ask a few questions to get you thinking?
Your personal confidence would surge, creating more self-belief – what would that be worth?
You’d have more energy at work, creating more productivity – what would that be worth?
You’d wouldn’t be so tired with your kids and partner, creating more time for love and connection – what would that be worth?
You’d be stronger physically, allowing you to move things more easily – what would that be worth?
You’d have better fitness, meaning you could experience more things – what would that be worth?
You’d handle stress better, meaning less overwhelm and reactivity – what would that be worth?
You may lengthen your life by 2-20 years, meaning more time with friends and family – what would that be worth?
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐇𝐘𝐒𝐈𝐂𝐀𝐋 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐭𝐨
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐅𝐄𝐄𝐋 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐄𝐗𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬.
The one question I always ask myself (𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘵𝘰) –
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐈’𝐝 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧 𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐚 𝟐𝟎 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐡, 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐞𝐫?
I cannot put a dollar value on this…
ALL YOUR WORK IN THE GYM IS A WASTE
It often goes like this…
𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡: “𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦?”
𝐘𝐨𝐮: “𝟺 𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴, 𝘩𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥!”
𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡: “𝘕𝘪𝘤𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘱 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵 𝘢𝘵?”
𝐘𝐨𝐮: “𝘈𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝟷𝟶,𝟶𝟶 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘱𝘴 𝘢 𝘥𝘢𝘺 – 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬!”
𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡: “𝘈𝘸𝘦𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘯𝘶𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 – 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵?”
𝐘𝐨𝐮: .....
𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡:
𝐘𝐨𝐮: (𝘐𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘫𝘪)
𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡: “𝘖𝘬, 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨?”
𝐘𝐨𝐮: “𝘔𝘢𝘯, 𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘺, 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘶𝘥𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨… 𝘐’𝘮 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘶?”
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𝐎𝐊, 𝐁𝐈𝐆 𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐆!
All the effort you are putting in the gym is a waste, if you have a fat loss goal
You may have heard the phrase, ‘𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘯 𝘢 𝘱𝘰𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘶𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯'
𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧?
It means, if your nutrition is out of control
No amount of exercise – workouts or steps, is going to help you get results
And when you don’t get results, it’s going to frustrate you
And when you’re frustrated, you’ll wonder why you are doing it
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬, 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐥𝐥 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐲 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐮𝐩.
Until the next time, you start the cycle again.
I beg you to understand this message…
𝐍𝐀𝐈𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐍𝐔𝐓𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐈𝐒 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐀𝐍𝐒𝗪𝐄𝐑 𝐓𝐎 𝐅𝐀𝐓 𝐋𝐎𝐒𝐒
And I DON’T mean following a diet!
𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞?
REVERSE AGEING — POSSIBLE OR NOT?
As parents of a 15-month old,
Cordia and I have a combined age of 77.5 years
𝐅𝐂𝐊!
Sounds old?
But here’s the thing…
You know when they say ‘𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢 𝘯𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳?’
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐔𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐘 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧?
Well it means there is a big difference between your BIOLOGICAL and CHRONOLOGICAL AGE
The latter, is how much time has passed since your birth.
𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐢𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐒 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞…
If you’ve been ‘𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥’,
I bet you feel ‘𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘨𝘦’
Sore,
Creaky,
Tired,
Unmotivated…
Almost like, ‘𝘮𝘮𝘮, 𝘐’𝘷𝘦 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘶𝘱”
But what we have PROVEN to be possible through endless transformations
𝐈𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤… 𝐛𝐢𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲
Imagine running into a mate you haven’t seen in ages, they say:
‘𝘔𝘢𝘯, 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘶𝘱 𝘵𝘰? 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬…𝘶𝘮, 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳!’
𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥?
‘Imagine the kids or grandkids saying…
‘𝘠𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘯, 𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘧𝘧!’
𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥?
IMAGINE turning back the clock on your relationship because you feel better about YOURSELF!
𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐀𝐂𝐓 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐀𝐆𝐄
I propose we ‘middle finger’ that idea…
My mission is for more of us to feel that feeling again
𝐈𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤!
YOU IMPACT THEM IN SOME WAY
It’s funny when you get older
You get more reflective
I was in the gym today, thinking about how my life has changed
What motivates me…
I can always remember being motivated by money
And then I got more money,
And I didn’t really feel any different
For years, I exchanged my time for money
But it lacked meaning
It was transactional
Living for the weekends
And it fuckin sucked.
It’s different now…
The thing that motivates me the most, is having IMPACT.
Becoming a better coach and improving our Academy is almost all I think about
Impacting your life in some way, is almost all I think about
I think IMPACT is something we are all chasing
Having a positive impact on our kids
Having a positive impact on our social circle
And in turn, these things make us feel better about ourselves.
And feeling better about ourselves, creates more motivation
𝐒𝐨, 𝐭𝐰𝐨 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐞𝐧𝐝:
𝘐𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥?
𝘐𝘧 𝘴𝘰, 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘐 𝘥𝘰 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘵?
GUARANTEED FAILURE PLAN: “STARTING IN JANUARY”
How many years in a row, have you said this?
And then January comes,
And after what seems like the shortest Christmas break ever,
You’re again swamped with all the things
Dammit!
January 2050?
Let me tell you why “𝘚𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘍𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘩 𝘐𝘯 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘕𝘦𝘸 𝘠𝘦𝘢𝘳” is dumb
Most of us work our butts off until early December,
Then start the festivities
We drink lot
We eat lots
We gain weight
Then we haul our ass toward the end of the year
It’s like a plane, slowly coming into land
And then arriving at its hanger for a rest
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐞
You’ve got this great idea to start ‘𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝟸𝟶𝟸𝟸’
But your plane starts January at a dead stop
Out of momentum
And we wonder why it’s so hard to get started.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐬 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐏𝐋𝐄…. 𝐌𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐦
Imagine your transformation started now
By January, you’re flying toward a new, fresh destination
Christmas drinks are just a little turbulence on route
No problem
𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐦,
Now looking back at all the other planes (friends) sitting in the hanger
Waiting to start
You Win!
𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐭 — click APPLY HERE below
“I DON’T DESERVE HAPPINESS”
It’s what you’ve been telling yourself
And this may be why you are stuck.
Stuck, not just in life generally,
But stuck in the middle of another rough week
𝗪𝐞’𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
There seems like there is no time to do anything
You leap from commitment to commitment
Feeling like you never, ever get ahead
And subsequently, you feel like a failure.
And because you feel like a failure, you conclude…
“𝘐 𝘋𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘋𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘏𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴…”
𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏!
This is crazy…
Happiness isn’t served up on a platter
You earn your happiness by prioritising the most important thing
𝐘𝐎𝐔, 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞!
It starts with working on YOU
When you feel better, physically and mentally,
No longer labelling yourself ‘an overweight failure’
You look at yourself in the mirror and think,
‘𝘐’𝘮 𝘣𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘨𝘶𝘺 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯…’
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐃𝐎 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬,
But only if you have the courage to ask for it…
And this is where your transformation
THE TRAINING PARADOX
Ever feeling like your motivation to train is GONE?
The idea of going to the gym means hauling ass…
𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐣𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐅𝐔𝐍.
It does NOT mean you’re gonna be inspired all the time.
But what success is contingent on,
𝐈𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩!
Like my boy Alex Render here.
I’ve got secret ways of obtaining stuff…
And whilst you may have hauled as this morning (before pic)
FK you look like you won (after pic)
I call this ‘𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘛𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘥𝘰𝘹’
The idea that NO ONE regretted a workout afterwards
It’s hard getting started,
But once in momentum, you’re fine.
And then when it’s done, you feel amazing.
𝗪𝐇𝐘?
𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐝𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬
𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐝𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐬𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐡𝐞’𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬
AND actually follows through.
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐫𝐨𝐥𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭.
THE DEEP END OF THE POOL IS WHERE YOU LEARN TO SWIM
I was remembering back to before I was a dad
I’d watched my nieces and nephews grow up,
I saw the challenges
I saw the meltdowns
And if I am completely honest
𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐚 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐫 𝐛𝐢𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐟𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫.
Am I strong enough for it?
Do I have the skills and patience?
Can I be the amazing example my dad was for me?
And what if I messed it up?
If we try for a kid, it’s not like cancelling a gym membership
I can’t just bail they next day and make things go back to how they were
So, the conclusion that most of us make (if lucky enough to be able to have kids)
Is to dive in the deep end and do our best
To learn to swim
And when we bugger it up,
Learn from our mistakes
And get back on the wagon the next day.
𝐈 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐰𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡?
A lot of us are so trapped by the fear of failure
And although we totally hate the way we feel
Although every single day we are so exhausted from carrying weight
The idea of doing something about it
And risking being judged by others
Is far scarier than just jumping in and starting,
And figuring it out along the way.
𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤, 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐲 - 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐛𝐢𝐠 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦𝐬
But what if like becoming a dad,
You just embraced the idea that you don’t need to be perfect
And as long as you move forward, you’d win
𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩?
SUMMER’S COMING LADS!
Sweaty ballsacks need a beach cool off…
Being pent up inside an air conditioned house
Just to get cool,
When you’ve just spent half the year in lockdown…
Going absolutely mental and waiting until you can escape,
That’s not the way to spend summer
The escape starts now…
Get a head start on the New Years Resolution hopefuls
𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗲 “𝗖𝗼𝗼𝗹” 𝗗𝗮𝗱
PROGRESS STARTS WHEN YOU TELL YOURSELF THE TRUTH
I’m going to be deadest honest here…
This may hit hard, it may trigger,
But I can say it, because I lived it for years
Waking up Monday morning, thinking
“𝘍*𝘤𝘬.. 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘔𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴”
I hated them because they were the weekly reminder
Of restarting a ‘𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬𝘦𝘯𝘥’ life I didn’t want
I was REALLY good at distracting myself with tasks
I was BUSY AF doing stuff I didn’t want to do
Putting my head in the sand,
Waiting for the right moment to start
Waiting for things to be perfect so I could do what I wanted
But each Monday, was like Ground Hog Day
Back on the treadmill
𝐔𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐲, 𝐈 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝
‘𝘠𝘰𝘶’𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘢 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝟼 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴!’
Tell yourself the truth… You’ve wasted time
And if you don’t start now,
You’ll never start
𝟔 𝐅𝐊𝐈𝐍 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞….
That day, I got off the fence
I signed with a coach,
And within one year, my life was completely different
I got the tools and the accountability to get unstuck
I put my cash on the line to get a mentor
Because I realised that if I was to live until 90
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝟔 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞
Spent procrastinating,
I was done with that sh1t
𝐈’𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐰𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬:
Being the best dad, partner and friend that I can be (𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘵)
And making up for years I wasted on the fence
When I could have been helping more men get unstuck…
Take out of this what you will brother…
YOUR ACTIONS PROVIDE THE LESSONS, THE LEGACY
What was your childhood like?
That may be a triggering question for a lot of us…
I feel very, very, very lucky to have been born to two parents that were conscious about the example they set
Mum and Dad - they’re not brain surgeons
But they understood that what they DID
Was far more important than what they SAID
𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩, 𝐦𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐝 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐚𝐬𝐬
The work ethic that I have is a product of his example
Long, slogging days, out in the elements working
He’d come home filthy dirty, and sit and eat dinner with his family every night
𝘏𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵
𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩, 𝐦𝐲 𝐦𝐮𝐦 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐤
The love and care that I have is a product of her example
Driving us round to sporting practice,
Trying to figure out maths homework haha!
Waiting up on the couch until 2am Saturday morning, hoping my brother would come home in one piece from his Friday night out
𝘏𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵
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𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐍𝐎𝗪 𝐈 𝐀𝐌 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐃𝐀𝐃!
Trying to figure it all out on the fly…
Thinking in advance about the legacy I leave,
Being conscious of what I DO
Hoping my daughter takes two lessons from me…
That you can do anything you desire if you go after it
That love is the world’s strongest force
𝐓𝐨 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐃𝐚𝐝𝐬,
𝐌𝐚𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐜𝐲 𝐛𝐞 𝐀𝗪𝐄𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄!
THE DIFFERENCE IS EMBODIMENT
Today, I had a great pleasure
To share a beer with Coach Nikki
She’s coached inside our Women’s BBA for a year
But due to COVID
And the fact we live in different continents,
We had never physically met up.
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲.
And I always know the bullshit from the real people
Nikki has embodied health
She IS health
She LOVES health
I mean, how else other than total commitment,
Would a 40-year old chick with PCOS
𝐋𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝟏𝟎𝟎 𝐩𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐬
And conquer it?
Most people tip toe around the edges,
Trying to do the bare minimum to get by
Others go FULL HAM
Deep AF
Like Nikki
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞
In their wealth, relationships and health.
It’s full immersion
Leading to total embodiment
I feel very proud today to have such a quality human
𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭!
FRI-YAY VIBES!
As a dad,
Do you ever find yourself so engrossed in your sh*t
That you actually forget why you are working so hard?
I’m going to be honest,
That’s a problem for me.
I’ve set out to change the world in a positive way
𝐒𝐨 𝐟𝐚𝐫, 𝐰𝐞’𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝟏𝟎𝟒 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝟏𝟎 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝟔𝟎𝐤𝐠
And their happiness,
Breeds my happiness,
But if I actually strip away the coaching part,
And look right in front of me,
𝐈’𝐯𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐈 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭
I think that’s something all men need to do
Stop for a sec,
Pause
Momentarily relinquish our role as ‘𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘮 𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴’
And see the beauty in our lives
There’s lots to dance to if you pay attention!
Happy Friday Guys!
A MAN’S GREATEST FEAR
Are you like me?
When you became a dad,
You all of a sudden went from ‘𝘮𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘮𝘢𝘯’
To ‘𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘺 𝘧𝘢𝘮’
Pre-dad, you were accountable to yourself only
Then all of a sudden, little humans depend on you
𝐀𝐬 𝐚 𝐝𝐚𝐝, 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐟𝐟
It feels like there’s no time
𝗪𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐨𝐥𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞…
So, in chasing financial stability,
We prioritise work
But in doing so,
Many of us gradually lose some things we don’t value until they’re gone…
OUR HEALTH
OUR ENERGY
OUR CONFIDENCE
The kids grow up and learn to fend for themselves more
But we’re left with a mind and body that’s not so functional anymore
We pack on weight,
We’re constantly fatigued
And that fear about not being the role model you wanted to be?
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐚 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫 – 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐀𝐓 𝐀𝐋𝐋.
There core problem here, is thinking you needed to make a choice
Between Money or Health
But you do not.
I think it’s time to rethink our approach
Quit the stupid quick fixes,
And find something real and sustainable
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐯𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐢𝐭…
WHEN SH1T GOES WRONG!
Here’s a pic of me in the process of losing it earlier today
I had a scheduled Q and A
My internet broke
I couldn’t stream
And I felt like I was letting my clients down
Seems insignificant? Sure
But I’ve got high expectations and when I can’t meet them,
I fume…
𝗪𝐡𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐬? 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮?
Well, in the pursuit of being less reactive,
I think many of us men misunderstand the point
Having a normal human reaction of being pissed off
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥…
𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴, 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘶𝘭𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘧𝘧?
What’s the next action?
Is it self-sabotage?
𝐄𝐱𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬 –
I feel stressed, so I drink, so that I don’t feel that anymore
I feel emotional, so I binge, so that I don’t feel that anymore
I feel angry, so I punch things… nothing good to come of that…
Part of a man’s transformation is becoming less reactive
After I cooled down, I just got back to work
Controlled what I could,
Move on…
Remember mate, it’s not about stopping the natural response you have
That’s almost impossible
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐡𝟏𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞
Call it Bro-Zen,
But managing what you do, seems far more important
Jase ‘Cool Ya Jets’ Stuart
WHAT ALL DADS WANT, RIGHT?
It’s your 41st birthday
You wake up, to a 𝐁𝐄𝐀𝐔𝐓𝐈𝐅𝐔𝐋 message written by your wife
Acknowledging that, although you are becoming an old bugger,
𝐒𝐡𝐞’𝐬 𝐬𝐨 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫
Going from a man that was a little stuck
To a bloke that is a superb role model
And a dad that your kids just want to be like!
𝗪𝐎𝗪, 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐞𝐥𝐭𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭!
I talk to men every week that just want some help getting moving again
Nick Duggan 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐬 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟎
And now, within 12 months
He’s turned it all around!
Nick, of all the men I have been lucky to work with
You are up there with the highest quality humans I know
Amy is certainly lucky to have you
And we inside Better Body Academy are too!
To see you family sharing in your best health
And your renewed energy and building self-belief
Ahhhh man, makes me so fricken happy!
𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐢𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐛𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫!!